Potential – What is it?

It’s about personal development. It’s about creating your own character and pushing it to the limit. It’s about pushing yourself so far out of your own and everybody else’s idea of who you are and what you’re capable of, that you no longer believe in limits. It’s about reaching beyond your so-called potential, because your potential is never where you or anyone else expects it to be, not even close.

Realize your potential and settle for nothing less. As Rumi said, “It is your road and yours alone. Others can walk it with you, but nobody can walk it for you!”

The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibilities for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.

Your life purpose is not some chore handed down by decree, nor something you feel is expected of you, but rather it is your own creation, guided by your inner knowing. That is, the complete fulfillment of who you are, your true values and your potential for loving service.

Success is knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others.

Louis Groenewald said, “The attribute of love and respect for the dignity and potential of others always finds channels of excellence in relationships.


Every person and situation may have different channels of excellence such as talents, interests, desires and values.


Passion to seek after channels of excellence in others leads to healing, unity, love, courage, faith, hope and even miracles. The converse is also true.


When we lack respect and patience for the dignity and potential of others, then we tend to find negative channels that hurt and corrupt. What channels we seek in others is our choice.


Most rules are made by people with no authority who want to control and limit you from reaching your true potential. Ignore them, break their rules, and wave at them as you soar past them to greatness.

Never mind the doubters and the blind, as Rumi said, “You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust.


You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.


You have wings. Learn to use them and fly.


The inward journey is about finding your own fullness, something that no one else can take away.


As Anne Frank said, “Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!”

Leadership-Action not Position

Regardless of your position in life, at some time, like it or not, you will find yourself in a position of leadership. It may be at work heading up a committee or accepting a new management position, it may be in a church group, in a professional organization or even a social setting. For many of us, it will be in our homes where, as parents, we have a critical leadership role to play.

As the quote says, leadership is not about “position”, or for that matter, title. It is about action. It is about who we are and our actions, our deeds, how we treat others, how we make decisions, how we listen to others, how we accept responsibility for our actions and hold ourselves accountable; this is who we really are.

As leaders, we must realize that every action is a reflection of our character, our integrity and our ability to be noble, caring human beings.

I happen to believe that there is no substitute for responsible leadership that adheres to and honours high moral character and rules of conduct as guiding principles.

In recent years, we’ve seen the sort of train wrecks that can occur when CEO’s and people in leadership positions compromise their integrity.

Manipulating performance figures and earnings to try and improve stock performance, their inept and corrupt form of leadership led to not only to the failure of their companies but also to a pathetic state of mistrust. Their selfishness and greed led to the general distrust of business leaders.

Maybe Warren Bennis said it best in his book, Leaders: The Strategies for Taking Charge, when he said, “Managers do things right, Leaders do the right thing.” Thus, if leadership is truly action, it is important that it be the “right” action.

In reality, we all have a leadership role to play. In this day an age, each of us must make a conscious choice as to how we are going to lead our lives. How are we going to live? What choices will we make? How will we treat others and will we seek to help those less fortunate than us?

You see, leading a life and just living one are two very different things. This coming week, think of yourself as a leader. Take the time to think through your decisions and actions, and most importantly, do the right thing!!

Changing Careers- Things you should know

Too often in life, we fail. We fail not because we set our goals too high and miss achieving our aspirations. Instead, we fail because we set our dreams too low and we achieve them. If we achieve what we set out to do then how is this considered to be a failure?

Failure occurs when we are not fulfilling our highest aspirations. Here is some insight on what anyone can do while they are in the midst of wanting to change careers…

We begin our lives as children with lofty goals. For example, a child might decide that they would like to grow up and become an astronaut and travel to the moon. This child doesn’t have the ability to place any limitations on themselves.

They don’t think about what degree they need to possess in order to be an astronaut.

They don’t become worried about all of the details that are necessary to achieve this dream. Instead, the child just knows that they are passionate about space exploration.

When you are in the midst of a career change, think and dream like a child. Let your passions lead you in a direction that is right for you.

Society, friends and/or family members can put a damper on your hopes and tell you that you are incapable of achieving your highest vision.

You may be told that you are too old, not smart enough, don’t have enough money, don’t have the right education or experience or just simply are the wrong race or sex. The reality of these limitations exists only in the mind. You have the choice to either believe or doubt the limitations.

That’s right, you have a choice. You can choose to be like the great composer, Beethoven, who was once told by his music teacher that as a composer he was hopeless. Beethoven recognized that he would not be stopped by the label that his music teacher placed on him even despite the fact that he was deaf.

When you are changing careers, you may find that you struggle with your own bouts of self-doubt.

The last thing that you need is for other people to tell you what you should and shouldn’t be doing especially when you recognize that they are not fully supporting your efforts.

With these people (and we all have them in our lives), you will need to advise them that you love and care for them but you would appreciate if they kept their comments about your ambitions to themselves. If you don’t eliminate outer sources of negativity, you will find your passions getting buried deep inside yourself.

People sometimes don’t pursue a particular career path because they believe that they won’t make the same or more money than what they are currently earning.

Again, recognize that this belief is a limitation. Work towards eliminating these thought patterns. Instead, realize that with any and every job, you have the potential to make as much money as you desire. That’s right.

You can make as much money as you desire. Even though Henry Ford was poor and uneducated, he dreamed of a horseless carriage and his dream became a reality of what we know today as the automobile. Thus, you must have the mindset that money is just as plentiful as air.

Do you ever find yourself concerned that you might not have enough air? Do you keep track of the number of breaths that you are taking within the day so that you don’t run out? The answer is no and in fact someone would think that you are crazy if you thought that you were going to experience an air shortage. The same is true for money. The mindset of plenty is the first step in creating the wealth that accompanies your passions.

The best way to squelch your fears is to keep your eyes focused on the dream that you desire.

Stephen Covey says that you should have the end in mind. Ask yourself, what do you ultimately want to become? What do you want people to say about you when you die?

When you stay focused on your dream, it becomes easier to attain since you can then develop the necessary steps that will take you from where you are today to where you want to be. Making a career change then becomes less daunting and more systematic.

Overcoming Fear

Reaching your true potential is the action of facing your fears and moving to a new threshold. You move in empowering ways rather than moving in disempowering directions. Empowering ways create an empowered self. Creating an empowered self, is a very loving thing to do and it takes courage! Self love is an act of self worth. Self worth is the basis of your Self Esteem, or who you consider yourself to be in the world.

So how do you create self esteem? Well here’s a surprise – self esteem is a verb… you take action! You go beyond where you wouldn’t go before… in the face of your fears. The reason we haven’t gone there before is because of our fear! How debilitating can fear be? It can be as debilitating as we let it…

For example when someone expresses fears, it’s tempting to follow them down the rabbit hole and get lost in the useless world of “what ifs”. If we do get someone to “partner with” our fears, we are actually gathering evidence to keep us stuck… then… a little stuck-ness may blossom into a full-blown drama-fest with the help of your fear-partner. Did you ever do that? Get so caught up in a conversation about the “what ifs” that you actually supported each other in something with no basis in reality. People who comfort each other in fear do not serve each other! Most of what we fear never comes true!

It’s important to remember that fear is:

A normal response to personal growth and a necessary learning tool.
Not reality based in most circumstances.
A gateway into meaningful change.
Your best teacher.

Common fears sound like this:
What if I’m not a good at it?
What if it doesn’t go the way I want it to? I can’t do it.
What if they don’t like me?
What if they don’t buy it?
I’m afraid to market my services.
Perhaps I’m not good enough!
What if something goes wrong?
They won’t give me their time.

While these fears are normal, they do not serve us. If they are given credence and we allow them to disempower us, they can put an end to our goals and dreams. So, how do we deal with fear?

We can create a method or structure that will provide us with the “path to our empowered selves.” The path that provides us with a way to move through fear! Try this:

Acknowledge that the fear is real for you with a brief compassionate comment like, “I know it can be scary to go after my dreams… ok, so it’s scary at times. So what!” Whatever that fear is. Acknowledging fear will take the charge out of it.

Denial of fear is simply the same fear, stuffed down into a less noticeable place. (It’s not really less noticeable… we just try to trick ourselves into thinking that it is.) Fear may also be denied by creating disempowering and limiting thoughts (thought addictions), or by using something to cover it up (substance addictions). If this happens, recognize the addictive thoughts and substances as your teacher in, “How I keep fear alive with my denial.”

Simply recognize your fears as limiting beliefs. Then make a distinct choice in the other direction by choosing empowering thoughts. For example, “When I create this, what will it make available for my life, others, the world?” Or, “Why would I want to do this in the first place? Is it my dream/purpose/self expression. If so… What else matters?”
Always keep your eye on the outcome you want to create.

When you look into the past that’s what you create. You create what you focus on. If the past comes up, and you find it sitting out there as anxiety about “what ifs” for the future, then recognize it as illusion, laugh at it and move on. Become the watcher of your fears/thoughts. Let them glide by like a cloud in the sky. You are not your thoughts.

Create measurable specific steps that will incrementally move yourself toward your goals and your desired outcomes. Get creative. Have fun! Make it your personal game!

Get a box full of tools to manage your fears. Consider keeping a journal of your fears. Next to each fear write down the action you’ve taken, despite the fear. Or look in the mirror and tell yourself each day… “This is what I created today. This is who I am, in spite of my fears!”
recognize comfort as your enemy.

Comfort kills possibility. When you are feeling uncomfortable as you move to the next phase of your dream/goal… Rejoice… you are headed in the right direction. Be willing to get uncomfortable!

Get a coach, partner, buddy, or all three, who will always keep you above your fear and support you on the high road, to your highest good, your dreams fulfilled and your greatest self.

That’s some of the many ways to reach your true potential! I hope they find a way into your world, your dreams and your possibilities!

Recruitment Agencies – Good or Bad?

recruitmentDuring the tough times of an economic downturn, when unemployment numbers skyrocket, job seekers need all the support and guidance they can get. Unfortunately, it is a fertile period for bad recruitment agencies to ply their unethical tricks. However, there are some indicators of bad recruiting practice which, when known, will help you spot and avoid unscrupulous recruitment agencies with poor performance standards.

Is There A Fee Involved?

If your recruitment agency attempts to charge you a fee for their recruiting services warning bells should sound immediately. Recruitment agency fees are paid by the company that hires you. You should never sign a contract in which you agree to pay the recruitment agency for something your new employer should be paying for, no matter how great their spiel about a “grand scale can’t fail personalised recruitment campaign” sounds.

Is Your Consultant Less Than Well Informed?

Then why are they a recruitment consultant? Recruitment is a high pressure sector in which competition is fierce. If consultants don’t appear to be knowledgeable about a job sector or specific position they’re not doing their job properly, which can indicate that the recruitment agency has substandard training programmes or just plain poor standards when it comes to performance. If they’re not doing their best, you’re not getting the best opportunity to find employment.

Are They Easy With “Being Liberal with the Truth”?

Then what else will they be easy with? There are many stories on the internet and questions asked in forums about recruitment consultants who say it is fine to lie during an interview or on your CV about your personal or professional history. This basically makes you as unethical as the consultant. Stick to the truth and leave the consultant to come unstuck one day.

Have Your References Become Their New Business Leads?

This can be tricky to find out, but it is a good sign that a recruiter is more interested in generating large volumes of business leads than focussing on getting you into your desired job. Contact your referees after your recruitment agent has called them and ask if they put forth any other business propositions to them. If they did, think about getting a consultant with a little more focus on your requirements.

Are They Embarrassingly Overconfident?

The brash, in-your-face antics of some recruitment consultants can drive you mad. Being overconfident to the point that they guarantee you the job is a sure sign that much of their business approach is hot air. Nobody but the company making the hiring decisions can guarantee you the job. Again, look for consultants who are honest from the start. After all, they are your initial representation to what could be your next employer.

Does Your Consultant Apply Too Much Pressure Toward Certain Jobs?

The role of the recruitment consultant is to find you a position that meets as many of your career aspirations as possible. It is not the role of the recruitment consultant to steer you away from your career interests and toward open positions from which they know they will earn more commission. You should always feel that you share a solid relationship with your consultant and that they are working in your best interest at all times.

Have You Been Asked Too Many Information Gathering Questions?

It is important to be wary of consultants who ask you too many questions which provides them with detailed information about your past employers or companies you have approached regarding employment. This is simply thinly disguised lead generation your consultant will use for other candidates.

Believe it or not, some unscrupulous consultants will ask you to name the companies you have sent your CV to, so that they can avoid sending it again, which they claim may damage your chances. The consultant now has a list of companies currently recruiting, which they can send other candidates to, increasing your competition.

Remember That It’s Not All Bad Out There

If you follow the simple guidelines above and look out for the highlighted indicators of bad practice there is no reason why you won’t find a good and ethical recruitment agency, which in turn will help you to find the employment you seek. As a last point, always remember to ask around about a recruitment agency’s reputation, as they are often built on candidate experiences and word of mouth.

Power of Effective Coaching Skills

Since coaching is something done  with   people, rather than   to   people, just how well prepared (both in skills and attitude) are managers to coach? Managers typically have an innate interpersonal technique, and so perhaps management’s perceived value of coaching can be indicated by how readily it’s being absorbed into business culture and put into practice.

So why in some managers is there a disconnect between the manager’s ability and/or willingness to coach and their drive to achieve the organization’s goals?

Further to this disconnect, we need to make the distinction between coaching skills and effective. If coaching occurs within an obvious context of a shared vision, corporate objectives, organizational values and performance indicators then what’s achieved is  effective coaching.

Finding solutions to this disconnect provides trainers with an opportunity to develop a role as a performance consultant – someone who has a primary role of improving productivity, first through analysis of the cause of the issue and then, designing appropriate behavior change programmes.

Find out what business processes and outcomes managers measure in order to determine productivity and profitability. From a selfish perspective, being an advocate for coaching and being able to communicate this business case for coaching places you in a position of higher value within the organization. You show yourself as someone who is on a similar wavelength as the managers in helping drive the business.

Some managers confuse coaching with simply giving advice. As Gore Vidal said, “There is no human problem which could not be solved if people would simply do as I advise”.

There is an increasing need to improve involvement and engagement of all employees to achieve business outcomes. Managers are continually asked to improve productivity without additional resources.

One option is to enhance behavior and performance through interactive communication and influence, such as coaching.

Managers need to invite employees to participate as partners, develop trusting relationships and combine everyone’s best efforts into creating business solutions. Managers also need to use their coaching skills with people within (who don’t necessarily report to them) and outside their organization.

Typical business performance indicators include productivity, employee turnover, profitability and customer satisfaction.

Importance of Discipline

The secret of discipline is motivation. When a person is sufficiently motivated, discipline will take care of itself.” ~ Sir Alexander Paterson
Discipline is doing what you know needs to be done, even if you are tempted to be lazy or do otherwise. The way to get over inertia is to remind yourself of the need, the good reasons for doing it now. And to remind yourself how satisfied you will feel when you have indeed done it.
“Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability.” ~ Roy L. Smith
Starting with unconscious incompetence, in learning a new skill we progress to conscious incompetence as we begin to practice a skill we have decided to learn. Then we move on to conscious competence as we master the skill – this is where discipline is required. And finally we arrive at unconscious competence when we need to give the skill very little attention at all, such as when we drive a car. Without that discipline we do not gain the desired ability.
“With self-disciple most anything is possible.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
The distance between dreams and reality is called discipline. As Zig Ziglar says, “It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.”
“Self-disciplined begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do. Simply, self-discipline enables you to think first and act afterward.” ~ Napoleon Hill
Remaining mindful instead of impulsive and distracted, you can stay on the path true to your conscience and caring.
“Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.” ~Stephen Covey
Brian Tracy sums it up… “Self-discipline is the key to personal greatness. It is the magic quality that opens all doors for you, and makes everything else possible. With self-discipline, the average person can rise as far and as fast as his talents and intelligence can take him. But without self-discipline, a person with every blessing of background, education and opportunity will seldom rise above mediocrity.”